Remember a time when you felt stressed or overwhelmed by something you know you wanted to do but didn’t know how to do? That’s exactly how I felt after I wrote my book Winning The Money Game and realized I wanted to make it a best seller but didn’t know how. Here’s 3 simple steps I found to evict that stress like a bad tenant. I call it the 3 R’s Realize, Release and Redirect.
First, Realize what the true source of the stress is: (it’s just the fear of doing something new and last I checked, not knowing how to do something stopped Thomas Edison or The Wright Brothers, so it shouldn’t stop me);
Next is Release (you want to release all of the toxins and self- sabotaging thoughts that don’t serve you like I can’t do this or I’m not good enough. Your job is to take those thoughts captive and prevent them from getting deep into your subconscious mind, or your spirit man).
Final step is to Redirect instead of Accept. Rather than using definitive and conclusive statements like I can’t, you redirect them into open-ended questions that put your mind’s creative to work. Once an “I can’t” is redirected to questions like (How can I become a Best Seller, What are the top 3 things best-selling authors did to make their book a best seller). You then realize that Once I do the top 3 things best-selling authors have done, I too will be a best-selling author. Going through this process allowed me to make my book Winning The Money Game, an Amazon best seller the week it was released in 2012.
Ever have one of those days where you wake up and realize you’re out of toothpaste, you go downstairs to fix a cup of morning Joe and you guess it, you’re out of coffee, you get in the car and on the way to work someone cuts you off and gives you the you need Jesus sign and just then you realize you have a flat tire, and all of that happened before 8am. If you’re like me, you’ve had your share of bad days. In this video, I’ll show you how to avoid them, you can use this simple hack. Don’t turn a bad 10 minutes, into a bad hour, or a bad hour in to a bad day. It’s so easy to allow all of that negative stimuli from that bad hour to hijack our emotions and set the course for the rest of the day to be bad. To avoid that, my friend Bonnie St. John, says to get a First Aid Kit for your attitude. Whether on your phone or a physical bag, this kit would have pictures from a memorable trip, sand from your last vacation, meaningful quotes and a host of other things that can help redirect your thoughts, which impact your feelings, which determine your actions or behaviors which ultimately create the results you experience. So, the next time you feel the onset of a bad day, remember to grab a first aid kit for your attitude.
Remember the time you did something really dumb in a relationship that ended up costing you whatever measure of trust you’d built up. Well today I’m going to share 3 simple steps to help rebuild the trust that you’ve lost.
(1) Immediately recognize the wrong doing and don’t’ make excuses. Far too often we try to explain our behavior away, thinking we are helping our cause, when in reality we are just digging a bigger hole. Stop it, just recognize you were wrong and apologize
(2) Ask for forgiveness. It’s not just sufficient to recognize you were wrong. Ask for forgiveness from the one you wronged and more importantly, ask God for forgiveness. When you hurt others, you hurt the apple of his eye
(3) Make the change in behavior that’s necessary to rebuild trust – This one is probably the most important one
The Bible says through love and faithfulness, sin is atoned for. If you love someone and are faithful to that relationship, going through these 3 steps is an expression of that love. The Bible also says it’s through the fear of the Lord, that a man avoids evil. So, if you have a healthy, loving and reverential relationship with the Lord, that’s how you can avoid engaging in the behavior that got you in this mess in the first place. Lastly, be patient and remember that trust is built up slowly but lost quickly. It’s kind of like the stock market that way.
Are you frustrated from looking at the long trail of goals you started but never finished? I mentioned in another video that only 8% of people who set goals actually achieve them. One of many reasons for this is I believe is people fail to apply the law of consistency in achieving their goals.
While you may be initially motivated when you set your goals, it’s discipline that will keep you grounded and focused when the path to goal achievement gets rocky. Another way I spell discipline is being faithful. To achieve your goals, ask yourself: Are you faithful to your goals? Are you faithful to the dream it represents? Are you faithful to the person you’ll become by achieving the goal? Has this goal become the most dominant thought in your mind? Do you go to bed thinking about it? Do you wake up thinking about it?
Do thoughts about this goal consume your mind like thoughts about the first girl or boy you fell in love with? In Proverbs it says many men claim to have unfailing love but a faithful man who can find? Will your goals find you to be faithful to them? Being faithful is what being disciplined looks like and being disciplined is what puts the law of consistency to work in your favor to achieve your goals. Don’t just go through the intellectual process of setting a goal. Rather be disciplined, be faithful, and apply the lawful process of consistency to achieve your goals.
Are you tired of chairing or attending meetings and feeling like that was a complete waste of time? If that’s you then I’ve got good news for you.
Today, I’ll share the one key to having effective meetings. Besides obviously having an agenda for each meeting, you should have and communicate what my mentor, John Maxwell, calls the energy requirement for that meeting. If the meeting needs high involvement and high commitment from the participants and that energy level required is an 8 out of 10, you can’t have people showing up with an energy level of only 6. They will suck the life out of that meeting. You may need to tell those people not to participate. As John says, it’s a lot easier to give birth to something new than it is to resurrect the dead.
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