Remember the time you did something really dumb in a relationship  that ended up costing you whatever measure of trust you’d built up.  Well today I’m going to share 3 simple steps to help rebuild the trust that you’ve lost.


(1) Immediately recognize the wrong doing and don’t’ make excuses.  Far too often we try to explain our behavior away, thinking we are helping our cause, when in reality we are just digging a bigger hole.  Stop it, just recognize you were wrong and apologize

(2) Ask for forgiveness.  It’s not just sufficient to recognize you were wrong.  Ask for forgiveness from the one you wronged and more importantly, ask God for forgiveness.  When you hurt others, you hurt the apple of his eye

(3) Make the change in behavior that’s necessary to rebuild trust – This one is probably the most important one

The Bible says through love and faithfulness, sin is atoned for.  If you love someone and are faithful to that relationship, going through these 3 steps is an expression of that love.  The Bible also says it’s through the fear of the Lord, that a man avoids evil.  So, if you have a healthy, loving and reverential relationship with the Lord, that’s how you can avoid engaging in the behavior that got you in this mess in the first place.  Lastly, be patient and remember that trust is built up slowly but lost quickly.  It’s kind of like the stock market that way.